A Man Called Ove

by

Fredrik Backman

Sonja is Ove's late wife, who dies six months before the start of the novel. She was very beautiful and loved color, chaos, and the humanities. She also loved talking, and Ove loved listening to her talk. She grew up with her father and a massive cat, Ernest, and met Ove when she moved to town to study to be a teacher. Right after she and Ove got married and moved into their row house, they went to Spain on a bus tour. There, they were involved in a bus accident that paralyzed Sonja from the waist down and caused her to miscarry her pregnancy. Rather than spend the rest of her life grieving, Sonja threw herself into teaching troubled students to read Shakespeare. Sonja worked to make life as bright and lively as possible, though Ove was constantly bewildered by her refusal to adhere to his carefully laid travel plans or routines and insisted she didn't understand his desire to live according to principles. After she dies of cancer, Ove visits her grave weekly and leaves pink flowers on her headstone. Ove draws on the memory of Sonja to encourage him to do the right thing—since he fears that she'll be upset with him if he shows up in the afterlife having left something done incorrectly on earth.

Sonja Quotes in A Man Called Ove

The A Man Called Ove quotes below are all either spoken by Sonja or refer to Sonja. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Memory and Grief Theme Icon
).
Chapter 2 Quotes

Every morning for the almost four decades they had lived in this house, Ove had put on the coffee percolator, using exactly the same amount of coffee as on any other morning, and then drank a cup with his wife.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Houses
Page Number: 5
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 4 Quotes

But Ove isn't bloody arguing. He just thinks right is right. Is that such an unreasonable attitude to life?

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Color (Pink)
Page Number: 33
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 11 Quotes

It wasn't supposed to be like this. You work and pay off the mortgage and pay taxes and do what you should. You marry. For better or for worse until death do us part, wasn't that what they agreed? Ove remembers quite clearly that it was. And she wasn't supposed to be the first to die. Wasn't it bloody well understood that it was his death they were talking about? Well, wasn't it?

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Page Number: 103
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 14 Quotes

And now she stood outside the station with his flowers pressed happily to her breast, in that red cardigan of hers, making the rest of the world look as if it were made in grayscale.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Color (Pink)
Page Number: 133
Explanation and Analysis:

She wanted to get married, so Ove proposed. She wanted children, which was fine with him, said Ove. And their understanding was that children should live in row housing developments among other children.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Houses
Page Number: 136
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 17 Quotes

As if the kitchen had been built for a child. Parvaneh stares at them the way people always do when they see it for the first time. Ove has got used to it. He rebuilt the kitchen himself after the accident. The council refused to help, of course.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja, Parvaneh / “The Foreign Pregnant Woman”
Related Symbols: Houses
Page Number: 163
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 23 Quotes

But everywhere, sooner or later, he was stopped by men in white shirts with strict, smug expressions on their faces. And one couldn't fight them. Not only did they have the state on their side, they were the state.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: White Shirts
Page Number: 204
Explanation and Analysis:

Every human being needs to know what she's fighting for. That was what they said. And she fought for what was good. For the children she never had. And Ove fought for her.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Page Number: 205
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 28 Quotes

After the accident Ove bought a Saab 95 so he'd have space for Sonja's wheelchair. That same year Rune bought a Volvo 245 to have space for a stroller. Three years later Sonja got a more modern wheelchair and Ove bought a hatchback, a Saab 900. Rune bought a Volvo 265 because Anita had started talking about having another child.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja, Rune, Anita
Related Symbols: Cars
Page Number: 245
Explanation and Analysis:

Rune and Anita's lad grew up and cleared out of home as soon as he got the chance. And Rune went and bought a sporty BMW, one of those cars that only has space for two people and a handbag. Because now it was only him and Anita, as he told Sonja when they met in the parking area. "And one can't drive a Volvo all of one's life," he said with an attempt at a halfhearted smile. She could hear that he was trying to swallow his tears. And that was the moment when Ove realized that a part of Rune had given up forever.

Related Characters: Rune (speaker), Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Cars
Page Number: 246
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 32 Quotes

When he almost imperceptibly takes a half step backwards into the hall...he notices, from the corner of his eye, the photo of Sonja on the wall. The red dress. The bus trip to Spain when she was pregnant. He asked her so many times to take that bloody photo down, but she refused. She said it was "a memory worth as much as any other."

Related Characters: Sonja (speaker), Ove, Mirsad / “The Young Man”, Adrian / “The Youth”
Page Number: 280
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 33 Quotes

He thinks about how Sonja would have taken it if she'd found out. If she'd known that her best friend had not asked for her help because Sonja had "enough problems." She would have been heartbroken.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja, Jimmy, Rune, Anita
Page Number: 287
Explanation and Analysis:
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Sonja Quotes in A Man Called Ove

The A Man Called Ove quotes below are all either spoken by Sonja or refer to Sonja. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Memory and Grief Theme Icon
).
Chapter 2 Quotes

Every morning for the almost four decades they had lived in this house, Ove had put on the coffee percolator, using exactly the same amount of coffee as on any other morning, and then drank a cup with his wife.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Houses
Page Number: 5
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 4 Quotes

But Ove isn't bloody arguing. He just thinks right is right. Is that such an unreasonable attitude to life?

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Color (Pink)
Page Number: 33
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 11 Quotes

It wasn't supposed to be like this. You work and pay off the mortgage and pay taxes and do what you should. You marry. For better or for worse until death do us part, wasn't that what they agreed? Ove remembers quite clearly that it was. And she wasn't supposed to be the first to die. Wasn't it bloody well understood that it was his death they were talking about? Well, wasn't it?

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Page Number: 103
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 14 Quotes

And now she stood outside the station with his flowers pressed happily to her breast, in that red cardigan of hers, making the rest of the world look as if it were made in grayscale.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Color (Pink)
Page Number: 133
Explanation and Analysis:

She wanted to get married, so Ove proposed. She wanted children, which was fine with him, said Ove. And their understanding was that children should live in row housing developments among other children.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Houses
Page Number: 136
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 17 Quotes

As if the kitchen had been built for a child. Parvaneh stares at them the way people always do when they see it for the first time. Ove has got used to it. He rebuilt the kitchen himself after the accident. The council refused to help, of course.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja, Parvaneh / “The Foreign Pregnant Woman”
Related Symbols: Houses
Page Number: 163
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 23 Quotes

But everywhere, sooner or later, he was stopped by men in white shirts with strict, smug expressions on their faces. And one couldn't fight them. Not only did they have the state on their side, they were the state.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: White Shirts
Page Number: 204
Explanation and Analysis:

Every human being needs to know what she's fighting for. That was what they said. And she fought for what was good. For the children she never had. And Ove fought for her.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja
Page Number: 205
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 28 Quotes

After the accident Ove bought a Saab 95 so he'd have space for Sonja's wheelchair. That same year Rune bought a Volvo 245 to have space for a stroller. Three years later Sonja got a more modern wheelchair and Ove bought a hatchback, a Saab 900. Rune bought a Volvo 265 because Anita had started talking about having another child.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja, Rune, Anita
Related Symbols: Cars
Page Number: 245
Explanation and Analysis:

Rune and Anita's lad grew up and cleared out of home as soon as he got the chance. And Rune went and bought a sporty BMW, one of those cars that only has space for two people and a handbag. Because now it was only him and Anita, as he told Sonja when they met in the parking area. "And one can't drive a Volvo all of one's life," he said with an attempt at a halfhearted smile. She could hear that he was trying to swallow his tears. And that was the moment when Ove realized that a part of Rune had given up forever.

Related Characters: Rune (speaker), Ove, Sonja
Related Symbols: Cars
Page Number: 246
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 32 Quotes

When he almost imperceptibly takes a half step backwards into the hall...he notices, from the corner of his eye, the photo of Sonja on the wall. The red dress. The bus trip to Spain when she was pregnant. He asked her so many times to take that bloody photo down, but she refused. She said it was "a memory worth as much as any other."

Related Characters: Sonja (speaker), Ove, Mirsad / “The Young Man”, Adrian / “The Youth”
Page Number: 280
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 33 Quotes

He thinks about how Sonja would have taken it if she'd found out. If she'd known that her best friend had not asked for her help because Sonja had "enough problems." She would have been heartbroken.

Related Characters: Ove, Sonja, Jimmy, Rune, Anita
Page Number: 287
Explanation and Analysis: