LitCharts assigns a color and icon to each theme in Disgrace, which you can use to track the themes throughout the work.
Desire and Power
Shame, Remorse, and Vanity
Violence and Empathy
Love and Support
Time and Change
Summary
Analysis
On a walk the next day, David and Lucy talk again about what happened with Melanie, and she gently suggests that he pursue women his own age, though her comments aren’t terribly judgmental or critical. Still, though, David quotes William Blake by saying, “Unacted desires can turn as ugly in the old as in the young,” going on to add that each of his romantic affairs have always made him a “better person.” In response, she says that she hopes he doesn’t also mean that he has made his lovers “better people,” too, though she immediately says she’s joking when he gives her a wounded look.
It's obvious that Lucy doesn’t approve of what David did with (or to) Melanie. However, she voices her disapproval in a simple, gentle way, only lightly rebuking her father for his wrongheaded approach to his own love life. As such, she subtly invites him to examine his own shortcomings without scaring him off—an impressive feat, considering that David is quick to disparage and discount anyone who encourages him to scrutinize himself.
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That weekend, David accompanies Lucy and Petrus to the Saturday farmer’s market, where Lucy has a booth and many loyal customers. At the market, Lucy introduces him to her friend Bev Shaw, who is in charge of the local Animal Welfare League outpost. Although his daughter has clearly taken to Bev, David finds it difficult to like her, since he “does not like women who make no effort to be attractive.” On their way back to the farm, they end up paying a visit to the Animal Welfare League, where David meets Bev’s husband Bill, whom he finds just as plain and unlikable as Bev. On the way home, David admits that, though he respects such ardent animal-lovers, they make him want to “go off and do some raping and pillaging” or “kick a cat.” This offends Lucy, who senses that David is insulting her way of life.
David’s vanity and arrogance come to the forefront of the novel when he disparages people like Bev Shaw. Not only does he judge her based on her looks, but he even manages to portray her kindness as a negative trait. This is possibly because he is threatened by people who are so moral, since he knows on some level that his own morality is deeply flawed.