Middlesex

by

Jeffrey Eugenides

Desdemona is Cal and Chapter Eleven’s grandmother, Milton and Zoë’s mother, and Lefty’s wife and sister. Born in Bithynios, a small village on Mount Olympus near Bursa, Asia Minor (which is part of modern-day Turkey), Desdemona initially has a simple, rural life. She is a talented silk worker, and after her parents die she takes it upon herself to take care of her only remaining immediate family member, her brother Lefty. However, Lefty and Desdemona end up falling in love. When the Greco-Turkish war forces Lefty and Desdemona to flee their homeland and emigrate to the U.S., Desdemona is initially unenthused. She is uncertain about the prospect of marrying Lefty and does not share his excitement and optimism about life in the U.S. However, they end up engaging in a fake courtship and getting married on the boat. Once they arrive in Detroit, they meet up with their cousin Sourmelina (who promises to keep the fact that they’re siblings a secret) and Lina’s husband, Jimmy Zizmo. Desdemona does not feel as enthusiastic about her new home as Lefty does, and does not make the same effort to assimilate (e.g., while Lefty becomes fluent in English quickly, Desdemona does not learn for a long time). This is partly due to the fact that she remains in the traditional role of a wife during this era, staying home to take care of the household and raise the two children she and Lefty have together, Milton (who is conceived at the same time as Sourmelina’s daughter, Theodora) and Zoë. During the Great Depression Lefty asks Desdemona to get a job, and she ends up briefly working for the Nation of Islam, teaching young female followers of the movement how to make silk and showing them the silkworm box she brought with her to the U.S. This experience opens Desdemona’s mind, encouraging her to be critical about injustice and anti-black racism. After Lefty dies, Desdemona gets into bed and stays there for 10 years. She desperately wants to die herself, and curses the fact that she remains alive. At the end of the novel, when she sees Cal after his gender transition, Desdemona confesses the secret that she and Lefty were siblings and apologizes to Cal for their role in causing his intersex condition. She gives Cal permission to share her secret after her death, which eventually comes in 1980.

Desdemona Stephanides Quotes in Middlesex

The Middlesex quotes below are all either spoken by Desdemona Stephanides or refer to Desdemona Stephanides. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Rebirth vs. Continuity Theme Icon
).
Book 1: The Silk Road Quotes

Traveling made it easier. Sailing across the ocean among half a thousand perfect strangers conveyed an anonymity in which my grandparents could re-create themselves. The driving spirit on the Giulia was self-transformation. Staring out to sea, tobacco farmers imagined themselves as race car drivers, silk dyers as Wall Street tycoons, millinery girls as fan dancers in the Ziegfeld Follies. Gray ocean stretched in all directions. Europe and Asia Minor were dead behind them. Ahead lay America and new horizons.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides
Page Number: 68
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Book 2: Henry Ford’s English-Language Melting Pot Quotes

My grandparents had every reason to believe that Sourmelina would keep their secret. She’d come to America with a secret of her own, a secret that would be guarded by our family until Sourmelina died in 1979, whereupon, like everyone’s secrets, it was posthumously declassified, so that people began to speak of “Sourmelina’s girlfriends.” A secret kept, in other words, only by the loosest definition, so that now—as I get ready to leak the information myself—I feel only a sight twinge of filial guilt.

Sourmelina’s secret (as Aunt Zo put it): “Lina was one of those women they named the island after.”

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Zoë Antoniou (“Aunt Zo”) (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides, Sourmelina Zizmo
Page Number: 85-86
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Book 2: Minotaurs Quotes

This once-divided city reminds me of myself My struggle for unification, for Einheit. Coming from a city still cut in half by racial hatred, I feel hopeful here in Berlin.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides, Sourmelina Zizmo
Page Number: 106
Explanation and Analysis:

Parents are supposed to pass down physical traits to their children, but it’s my belief that all sorts of other things get passed down, too: motifs, scenarios, even fates.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides, Sourmelina Zizmo, Jimmy Zizmo a.k.a. Minister Fard
Page Number: 109
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Book 3: Home Movies Quotes

The truth was that in those days Desdemona was struggling against assimilationist pressures she couldn’t resist. Though she had lived in America as an eternal exile, a visitor for forty years, certain bits of her adopted country had been seeping under the locked doors of her disapproval.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides
Page Number: 222
Explanation and Analysis:
Book 3: Middlesex Quotes

[…] right about this time Lefty’s English began to deteriorate. He made spelling and grammatical mistakes he’d long mastered and soon he began writing broken English and then no English at all. He made written allusions to Bursa, and now Desdemona began to worry. She knew that the backward progression of her husband’s mind could lead to only one place, back to the days when he wasn’t her husband but her brother, and she lay in bed at night awaiting the moment with trepidation.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides
Page Number: 268
Explanation and Analysis:
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Desdemona Stephanides Quotes in Middlesex

The Middlesex quotes below are all either spoken by Desdemona Stephanides or refer to Desdemona Stephanides. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Rebirth vs. Continuity Theme Icon
).
Book 1: The Silk Road Quotes

Traveling made it easier. Sailing across the ocean among half a thousand perfect strangers conveyed an anonymity in which my grandparents could re-create themselves. The driving spirit on the Giulia was self-transformation. Staring out to sea, tobacco farmers imagined themselves as race car drivers, silk dyers as Wall Street tycoons, millinery girls as fan dancers in the Ziegfeld Follies. Gray ocean stretched in all directions. Europe and Asia Minor were dead behind them. Ahead lay America and new horizons.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides
Page Number: 68
Explanation and Analysis:
Book 2: Henry Ford’s English-Language Melting Pot Quotes

My grandparents had every reason to believe that Sourmelina would keep their secret. She’d come to America with a secret of her own, a secret that would be guarded by our family until Sourmelina died in 1979, whereupon, like everyone’s secrets, it was posthumously declassified, so that people began to speak of “Sourmelina’s girlfriends.” A secret kept, in other words, only by the loosest definition, so that now—as I get ready to leak the information myself—I feel only a sight twinge of filial guilt.

Sourmelina’s secret (as Aunt Zo put it): “Lina was one of those women they named the island after.”

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Zoë Antoniou (“Aunt Zo”) (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides, Sourmelina Zizmo
Page Number: 85-86
Explanation and Analysis:
Book 2: Minotaurs Quotes

This once-divided city reminds me of myself My struggle for unification, for Einheit. Coming from a city still cut in half by racial hatred, I feel hopeful here in Berlin.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides, Sourmelina Zizmo
Page Number: 106
Explanation and Analysis:

Parents are supposed to pass down physical traits to their children, but it’s my belief that all sorts of other things get passed down, too: motifs, scenarios, even fates.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides, Sourmelina Zizmo, Jimmy Zizmo a.k.a. Minister Fard
Page Number: 109
Explanation and Analysis:
Book 3: Home Movies Quotes

The truth was that in those days Desdemona was struggling against assimilationist pressures she couldn’t resist. Though she had lived in America as an eternal exile, a visitor for forty years, certain bits of her adopted country had been seeping under the locked doors of her disapproval.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides
Page Number: 222
Explanation and Analysis:
Book 3: Middlesex Quotes

[…] right about this time Lefty’s English began to deteriorate. He made spelling and grammatical mistakes he’d long mastered and soon he began writing broken English and then no English at all. He made written allusions to Bursa, and now Desdemona began to worry. She knew that the backward progression of her husband’s mind could lead to only one place, back to the days when he wasn’t her husband but her brother, and she lay in bed at night awaiting the moment with trepidation.

Related Characters: Cal/lie Stephanides (speaker), Desdemona Stephanides, Eleutherios “Lefty” Stephanides
Page Number: 268
Explanation and Analysis: